About Social Anxiety

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Problem and solution essay

     Mankind are social living things. Some needs the others and so on. The communication between them creates the social life. Someone’s social life can be different from one to another. It depends on where they live and how they put their self in. Someone can have a successful social life, many friends and others do not. Some of them perhaps have a good social relationship and the rest will become someone who have a social anxiety. Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in a social interaction that involves a concern of being judged or evaluated by others. Having some issue in social life is so hard nowadays. When all the mankind is become more individuals with their modern thinking. If we have social anxiety, it is too easy for us just to get thrown away from society which there are some jobs, friends and other important things reunite. Social anxiety is hard to cure or avoid, but there are few things you can do to help fight this situation.

     Many people will tell you if you are going to some places new, you have to follow the new place rules. It is an old philosophy and it will not work easily. New place means new people, new society and you have to start from beginning. And even if you pass a successful social life in the society, it doesn’t mean that people will like the real you. Liking by people because of our fake identity will not take long. Just always be yourself. Whatever bad situation it might be, always true to yourself. Whether people will like you or not at least you are being yourself. And with not wearing any fake identity, the right people will notice and respect you for the way you are. This self identity plays an important rule to have a successful social life.

     The second secret to face a social anxiety is never, ever in any circumstances put yourself below everyone else. It is not that difficult to do that. All you have to do is think that we are all equal and deserve to be treated the same as other. You don’t have to be ashamed for having few friends only or not a popular and charming student in campus. Show them you are not below them. Or even show them that you have something that they don’t. Show them how creative you are and you can be different from them. When we have an equality thinking we can handle whenever we face new people or society.

     The last secret to handle a social anxiety is, you don’t have to always take all the things seriously. Or more likely know where you can put your self into in any situations. Sometimes the way people talks, behave or even see you can show weather they like you or not. Then if they became one of those kind who put you in a difficult situation, you already know how you should react if they act or say something that makes you feeling embarrassed. So, when they put you in such situation all you have to do is just relax and stay positive. When they put you in some easy situation you can fit with it and even when they put you in some difficult one you also know how to react.

     Living our life is not always about having the best social relationship, but it is more about how are we feeling. It is not useful when we have such a good social life but you feels pressured by them, for example you have to act like others to get liked by your society. So it is not about that. But having a social anxiety is not good too, because we need society after all. To be able to handle both of them is just always be true to yourself, never put yourself below everyone and then don’t always take all the things seriously. With these you can face that social anxiety and still have your true identity.